I’m Dreaming of an Auto-Pilot Button for Parenting

Can we have an honest little chat? A little one-on-one? Play a little game of “Truth Is”?

If you don’t know about the game “Truth Is,” I’m happy to enlighten you since “Yahoo!!” I have a teenager and this a little game they like to play on Facebook whereby the writer posts an honest and straightforward status update on her wall or someone else’s…usually heartfelt but not always.

Let’s give it a go, shall we?

Truth is….there are simply not enough hours in the day to tackle all of things I want to do and still manage to be a half-way decent parent to those three little buggers up above…and to be honest, the kind of woman to my husband that most men want. You know what I’m talkin’ about, eh?

I love this little space on the web that I can fill with creativity and, hopefully, inspiration for others but for some gosh dang reason my posts are taking hours and hours and hours to complete. Yes, I’ll admit that I’m a little slower than some…no, not that kind of slow…but I have these darned perfectionist tendencies which hinder my ability to just whip things out.

I know I have stated before that this fall has been unusually hectic and over the Thanksgiving holiday, when things were a smidge quieter, I was able to get a little perspective on the undeniable fact that I’ve spread myself too thin.

I have taken on some new writing projects outside of this website and those will be ramping up even more after the holidays. They are writing projects that I have been working towards for a long time so I need to pursue them…I need to try…no matter what the outcome.

I also realized over the break that no matter how much I wish this could be true sometimes, there is not an auto-pilot button for parenting. Darn it all. And I recognized that I have been too removed from the little buggers up above. Just constantly putting out fires instead of trying to prevent them. I need to check back in. And boy did I ever check back in….with a 3-page, typed, Social Media/Screen Time Expectations Contract, presented to and then, signed by the teen and preteen yesterday.

So what does that mean for my little website?

I know that some of you come for the stories, some for the pictures and some, god love you, for the recipes…so I don’t feel as if there is a part that I can give up; however, I need to give myself permission to only have to post one part at a time. Perhaps it’s a post with a recipe and some photos. A post with simply photos and a link to something inspirational. A story…and nothing else.

And perhaps, if it’s not so time consuming, I’ll be able to go back to getting more than one post out a week.

Of course, it will all still be food related. I continue to feel so strongly about helping out in anyway I can to inspire people to go into their kitchens and cook…real food.

So on that note, I leave you with some inspiration from the man trying to take on the food industry himself…David and Goliath style…Jamie Oliver.




  1. Well done! Love and support to you in every facet of your life!

  2. If you, my dear, could only see yourself as others do, you would realize that you do everything above par! (And we are not talking golf, cause that would be bad!) You inspire me always! Hope your Thanksgiving was wonderful….We missed you at the beach!

    • Good thing we’re not talking golf since I wasn’t sure if above was in fact good or bad. πŸ™‚ Starting to get a serious jealous streak about the amount of time our eldest children spend together. Aren’t we the original friendship? They wouldn’t even know each other if it weren’t for us? When do we get to hang out? πŸ™‚

  3. Meg DesCamp says:

    Carrie, I’ll miss the stories–glad you’re doing what’s right for you, though!

    • Oh, dear Meg, I’ll still post the stories just not as often and hopefully, not as long winded. πŸ™‚ The main idea is that the story, plus all of the photos, plus developing a recipe to post all together feels so daunting these days that I want to break it up. Toss out little bits at a time. πŸ™‚

  4. Seriously. You need a wife. πŸ˜‰

  5. I totally respect you for taking a step back – I so relate to the balance of being a present parent vs. work load. Good for you!

  6. what?! your talented writing doesn’t just pour out of you in the 5 minutes in the school pick up line? i am sure it takes alot of time to write – nothing i know anything about. i always enjoy reading your posts – even when i don’t have time ;)!! and since we have kids the same ages they are always relevant to my life too. do what is right for you, carrie…kris

    • Love knowing you’re reading my posts, Kris. Sure miss our days together in Seattle! Maybe one of these days our families will cross paths again….

  7. Completely enjoy your postings and imagine even in a more broken up fashion, all will remain amazing! What intrigued me most about this post was the 3-page, typed, Social Media/Screen Time Expectations Contract… Now how can I get my hands of this newest masterpiece of yours??

    • Why, yes, Cindy, I’ve had quite a bit of interest in that little contract of mine. I’ll have to think about how I can share it with all of you without being accused of, ahem, potentially damaging the teen’s, er, image. πŸ™‚

  8. Anne Hasson says:


    I love getting bits and pieces at a time – then there is not so much for me to comprehend at once. I will still treasure and enjoy each bit and piece sent. I never could understand how you got it all done anyway.

    • Oh good, I’m so glad the bits and pieces approach sounds good to you, Anne. And yes, I did feel like my posts were getting a bit long-winded. Could barely get through them myself? πŸ™‚

  9. Kristie L a Chance says:

    I so love your writing and your honesty! We are all going through this parenting experience together and I love getting your updates as reassurance that I am not thinking these thoughts alone:) congratulations on the other doors that have opened bc of the talent your have shown here!
    Good luck in your endeavors and give us a recipe and/or story when you can…
    Kristie La Chance

    • Thank you so much, Kristie, for your kind words. It helps me not feel so alone in the whole parenting endeavor knowing all of you are out there reading what I’ve written and many times, going over the same hurdles as me.

  10. Brava Carrie for having the courage to cut back a bit, do what is right for you and for being so honest about it on this forum. You set wonderful and realistic example of a smart, talented, thoughtful woman and mother. I will look forward to all posts, small or large.

  11. Connie Sloan says:

    Carrie… First things first. LOVE LOVE LOVE the above photo of the “little buggers” or the teen, tween and your little man.
    I will take whatever you have to offer darlin’! A post, a recipe, a beautiful photograph, they are all amazing to me. Congratulations for stepping back and realizing that somethings just have to wait.
    Good luck on your future writing endeavors, looking forward to hearing about them in the future.

    • Thank you so much my friend! I’m sure you’ll be hearing more about it than you’ve ever wanted to as we hang out together at basketball games. That is, if the tweener will let me watch him!!

  12. AMEN, halleluiah and, you said it, sister! As always, perfectly written. Enjoy your family and your life to the fullest. (and please don’t take the time to send a reply to this post.)
    seriously… go enjoy!

  13. Let me just say DITTO to everything you said. It’s so hard to manage it all and still be the perfect wife and mother, isn’t it??? I’m still trying. You do whatever is best for you and your family. Your devoted friends and readers will still visit you πŸ™‚ XO